Happy New Year.Now start digging and gardening .
The new year started with a new vegetable and flower gardens that sprouted in my front yard and at my neighbors' as well.Gardening is contageous..once one garden sprouts , then another one potentially gets into the mind of a neighbor..It is used as a THERAPY in Japan and Sweden.Why not here?Let us start TALKING first.
Communication is one of my favorite topics .Most people look at it as " only MY ONE WAY or THE HIGH WAY" ...Meaning : They like to TELL you and TALK to you without LISTENING to you!
I noticed that people in the city ( I live in one small town/city)communicate less with their hands and more with their handsets gadgets .Hand shakes and home visits are rare may be during the HOLLIDAYS!.
So there are lot of anger and holding back of potential correspondence .Few bears and fist fights start flying around, a different kind of a hand shake which I do not mean or like!
Ignorance paves the way to stereotyping and many other bad habits..you name them!.
Ignore your neighbor and treat them with IGNORANCE(OPPOSIT TO GNOSIS in GREEK) , then expect trouble !Do the right thing and KNOW(GNOSIS) their names and be friendly with "THEM" and happily you will live thereafter!
My neighbor "A" wanted to borrow our ladder ,so she paid us a visit and introduced herself.Before that:She wanted to borrow our trash bin and no one was home.So she took it.Once we met at our new garden , we shook hands and confessed the "borrowing"!She promised to bring it back.
Meanwhile she left behind a half dozen of potted flowers for our new garden project .She knew that we are gardeners by trade and unemployed !
She related to the struggle and wanted to give a helping hand .By trade she was a medic .She had a lot of compassion and appreciation to share .Before that she loathed the fact that the other neighbor who do not speak English had a different attitude when she borrowed his trash bin.(He emptied her trash into her backyard out of his borrowed bin!)
Shaking the hands brought us closer and the garden broke the ice of communication.She came first to admire our new vegetable garden .That was the triggering good intention.After all we are beautifying her neighborhood with flowers and edible vegetables which she liked so much!
On the other side of the road is a complete different story:
Another neighbor saw us working at our new garden.He approached and aggresively asked for our help.We were starving for some paid work .So we accepeted the offer with a good hearet expecting same!?
The experience and communication was a lot different With Neighbor "B".
Quite the opposit to say the least:aggressive, offensive, ego driven and oppressive to mention the least.By trade you know whom I mean , if not make a guess!?
What I want to say...When we communicate we do that according to our emotions.When in STRESS or (SICKNESS)),ANGER and FEAR we communicate with bullets and YELLING.When in JOY or (GOOD HEALTH),PEACE and LOVE we communictae with hugs ,hand shakes and kisses.
Farmers and gardeners touch the soil and their sould are charged by the enegy of the LIVING and LOVING EARTH.That is why when you meet a farmer ( I mean small/urban ones!!) you experience so much love,generosity,help,compassion,down to earth positive attitude .Why ?
It is the CHI ENERGY that flows from the flowers and green fields of the EARTH...Is the ANSWER my friend flowing with the WING!Does LOVE in THE AIR rings a bell?
Happy gardening and COMMUNICATING!