My mother died last July. 97 years old, She was a total radical,feminist. Yesterday my sister and brother in law and niece let her ashes go in Commencment Bay in Tacoma! It was a touching and funny thing. She blew back at them. Just like mom. She would rather stay on the beach! They ran like hell!
In our family, we have a way of being ourselves. It is both disturbing and comforting. Most of all we know it is love unbrideled. You don't have to earn it or keep it. You might have to deal with it and make your choices, but It is just there, always. and ready for more!